Don’t Become a Stump!

Don’t Become a Stump! 

Posted: 11:13 am Thursday, March 30th, 2017

By Staff Writer

When you hear the words “Take time for yourself.” What does the internal voice inside your head say?

Does it say, “You’re not worth it.” or “You don’t deserve it.” ? Does it say, “Don’t be selfish.” or “That’s so self-centered.” ? If those thoughts or anything like them echo around in your head, it’s time to change the narrative.

I have a good friend with a troubled teen (requiring a inordinate amount of attention,) a mother with Alzheimers (who she cares for,) AND a full-time job as a nurse.

She is a giver. She gives and gives and gives, ignoring the back ache, the swollen feet, the headaches…

She is a giving tree.

Do you remember the book by Shel Silverstein? The Giving Tree is about a beautiful big tree often visited by a little boy.

As the boy grows, he asks more and more from the tree who gives first the small, then the large branches, and finally the trunk, until there is nothing left of the tree but a stump.

My friend and many others are like this, (perhaps you too!) Their instinct is to give and give, until there is nothing left.

I happen to really, really, like my friend and don’t want her to become a stump!

The solution for the over-giver? Change your internal voice. It’s not selfish. It’s not narcissistic. It’s not a reflection of the so-called “Me” culture.

It is necessary.

Here’s another analogy I like to use. Have you ever traveled by air? Do you recall the safety review given before take off? In it, you are instructed to put your air mask on in the event the cabin loses pressure. It is emphasized that you put YOURS on before any child you might be traveling with. Why?

Because if we don’t ensure that WE are breathing, we won’t be of any good to anyone.

It’s the same with life. If we don’t take care of OUR needs we will be no good to others. Those that depend upon us, our families, our employers, our friends, actually end up short-changed when we are running on fumes.

If any of this resonated with YOU, do me a favor. Make some time for yourself!

Do something purely for YOU that recharges your battery and fills you with joy. Maybe it’s a 30 minute nap each afternoon, or a hot bath. A cup of tea and a good book.

On your feet a lot? For $25 you can get a pedicure that includes a hot water soak, care for callused heels and soles, a foot and leg massage, and as a bonus pretty nails!

You ARE worth it! You DO deserve it!

Werther’s | Salted Caramel Brownies

Prep Time: 30 minutes | Cook Time: 25 minutes | Yield: 24 Salted Caramel Brownies

Did you know there was a National Caramel Day??? Neither did I, but then again, I never need an excuse to eat caramel!

Our friends at Werther’s Originals were aware however! It’s coming up on April 5 and in honor of this delicious, buttery, chewy, uh, “holiday”, they’re providing us with some mouth watering recipes, like these Werther’s Salted Caramel Brownies!

You can whip up a batch from scratch (recipe below) or use a box recipe and add the caramel and salt as called for. Your call. They will still be a chocolate, caramel, salty bite of heaven!


• 1 pkg. (9 oz.) Werther’s Original Chewy Caramels, unwrapped, divided
• 4 oz. good-quality unsweetened chocolate???
• 1 ½ sticks (6 oz.) unsalted butter???
• 1½ cups sugar???
• 3 large eggs???
• 1 tsp. vanilla extract???
• 1 cup all-purpose flour???
• ½ tsp. kosher salt plus ¼ tsp. to sprinkle over batter???


1. Preheat the oven to 350°F. Line a 9 x 13-inch baking pan with parchment paper or greased aluminum foil. Cut 24 caramels into small pieces, reserve remaining caramels.*
2. Microwave chocolate and butter in a medium-sized microwave-safe bowl on HIGH for 1 minute or until melted, stirring after 30 seconds.
3. Stir in the sugar. Add the eggs and vanilla and stir until thoroughly incorporated. Stir in the flour and ½ tsp. salt until combined.
4. Fold in the cut caramel pieces.
5. Pour the batter into the pan and spread with knife to level.
6. Bake for 25 minutes or until brownies are set and just begin to pull away from the sides of the pan. Let cool ½ hour.
7. Meanwhile, microwave remaining caramels with 1 tsp. water. Drizzle over tops of brownies and sprinkle with remaining ¼ tsp. salt. Cool completely then cut to serve.

*Note: Use a sharp scissors to cut the caramels. Substitute brownie mix for scratch brownies to save time.

Werther’s will provide another recipe for next weeks letter, but in the meantime, you can visit their website for dozens of recipes!

Let your fingers walk their way to Werther’s HERE.

Train| Concert Tix!

Did you have an opportunity to check out my latest pod-cast with Pat Monahan from Train? He and I had such a great chat – what a fun guy!!!

Afterword, he blessed Point Hope and me by donating tickets to Train’s PLAY THAT SONG show at the Hollywood Bowl on May 13th. Oh yes, it definitely includes a back-stage meet & greet package!

Point Hope has put the tickets up for bid on eBay’s Auction Cause. If you are within traveling distance of Los Angeles, you should definitely…

Bid using the link HERE!

Many thanks to Train for this spectacular gift, and to YOU, my friends. Still reading? Well STOP and get to bidding!!!

Fresh as a Daisy!

As the long absent sun begins streaming through long forgotten window panes, the dust bunnies that have been hiding in corners don’t seem to be hiding as well any more… Spring cleaning is now a must rather than a maybe.

When you’ve finished the task, make sure your room has something to show for it other than those gleaming finishes.

I’m not changing window treatments or getting new furniture each season, but something we all can do is freshen up a mantle or other focal point.

Put away heavy or dark decor items and bring in the bright. Candles are not needed with longer, lighter days.

Pull things from other areas of your home, swap art-work, stroll through a thrift store for a couple of inexpensive seasonal items. Toss a couple of lighter colored pillows on the sofa (hint: search your bedrooms)

Books, bunnies, and blossoms work for spring! Shells, sea glass, and ships might be summer’s swag.

If you have any creative ideas, share! Shoot me a photo and your thoughts.

Write to me HERE.

Time slips by so quickly! Let’s make the most of it.

Take care and nurture YOU. Be present in all you do. Find joy. Love Someone!

April showers are just around the corner, and so are May flowers. Happy spring everyone, may it truly be a time of hope and renewal in your lives.

~ Delilah

And remember… Don’t become a stump! lol